Chronic?.....Pain or Comfort?
At least 1 in 5 people are living in Chronic Pain. Why?
It's a complex process. Often the diagnosing and helping people is so confusing that it contributes more to the problem than the solution...
Apparently, you get what you think about, what you focus on..........
Most people focus on the pain. Sadly, many for years and years.
What would happen if people did their best to turn their backs on the preoccupation with pain, and moved towards Comfort, Chronic Comfort?
If you want to be comfortable, it's probably better to practice being comfortable!
I remember when I had severe hip arthritis and was postponing surgery, I would often limp down the street to do various jobs, and be asked by the "wise" men of the town enjoying the park benches, "How come you are still limping?" Being polite i would try and explain it, really I was justifying it. Their eyes glazed over, I could tell they really were not interested in what I said.I also noticed the way i gave attention to my sorry story had me stuck in the same sorry story of difficulty and feeling lousy for half an hour after, sometimes longer. By their invitation, I had gone where i didn't want to go and had got stuck there.
I knew I had to avoid this trap and binding.
One day it occurred to me to reply differently.
"I have blisters!"
They seemed happy with that, and I had avoided getting sucked into the into the mental whirlpool and painful thought rut of my concerns for my future and how dismal the prospects were for me and my hip.
When I focussed on pain and difficulty, that make it harder to be comfortable.
I started to realise that I was better off creating chronic comfort, that I was try to problem solve a[in problems. When I used broom handle as an aid to walking rather than a walking stick, the unwelcome pity and insensitive questions from others decreased, (besides I walked more comfortably with it). Without being sucked into the preoccupation with pains, I was able to pay more attention to sustaining comfort and got less bogged in anxiety and worry.
Inspire of X-rays showing my hip was wearing out more, I was finding more and more ways to stay in chronic comfort. I remembered how many people say "All I want is a comfortable old age!"
Sadly, we associate old age with growing discomfort, not the growing ability to be wisely selective about how we move and deliberately sustain comfortable. We rely on uncomfortable recliners for comfort, rather than improving our ability over time to adjust and sustain ourselves more as we wish, with more flat and skill.
The many interchangeable principals of the Feldenkrais Method can be learned as all common sense can. To begin people benefit from a skilful practitioner helping them pay attention to the detail, and how to notice what is helpful.
Most of us could be more comfortable, just a little bit at a time even.
When I give talks I often ask people to make themselves more comfortable. Almost everyone shifts and adjusts, without being told exactly what to do. So why is it that we will tolerate slight discomfort normally when making small shifts into comfort seems doable for almost everyone? Why is it that we need such reminding or such an invitation to the better?
How does it help to sacrifice comfort?
You will do better by learning and practicing how to be comfortable. Even our struggles are better when we can find a way to approach them more comfortably. Now there is an interesting start; struggle comfortably?
Start easily, then tackle more tricky challenges using skills you can learn. Reducing effort, increasing skill and quality, recognising the patterns of pain and how to interrupt them.
Then the trap of pain will not rule your life. You can reduce and even eliminate drugs that disguise and confuse the sensation of the problem. You can notice and respond more sensibly to pain and discomfort cues.
Yes, you can have Chronic Comfort instead.